celebrity fascination for waitresses and bodyguards! why?
Few weeks back I was at Vegas attending opening of a posh restaurant and I happen to be there as one of the high profile investors from Greater Omaha area Insisted that I attend glamorous Hollywood party. This investor also happens to be leading investor in my fund so.. I couldn’t say NO.
While at the party the star attraction was not definitely who’s who of Hollywood but interestingly hot looking, barely dressed waitresses who had everyone’s attention. People were taking turn to go ga-ga over waitresses. Ladies were checking out body-guards and the bouncers at the bar!. My investor who knows me well & about my interest in human psychology asked me “ why is this fascination with waitresses for our celebrities?” I asked him with tongue-in –cheek “is he asking this question for himself”; he smiled wide and I knew he was asking for himself! I really did not have ready made answer but my response was along the lines below.
Man’s first exposure to love is thru breast and milk! Child’s first feel of security is from mothers milk! that’s why ,most of them fondly recall mom cooked food as their best childhood memories. In a world of artificiality, Hollywood is starved of love. Every time a successful celebrity hits a bar, he falls for the service provided by waitress. Waitress by training are made to treat you special. they make you feel special! one good thing about alcohol is everything in this world looks beautiful after few pegs! Combine that with service for food, delicately exposed top! and alcohol– it’s heady atmosphere for falling in love! Interestingly one of the Hollywood statistician who was at our table noted that he can think of one waitress hook up for every three hook ups! he happens to be TMZ reporter! he said every waitress hook up he can think of does not lost more than 9 months! what can I say! 9 months ring a bell!
Similarly for every every girl father is her first hero! if you notice pattern more girls end up with an affair with their body guards, gym coach, or even sports heroes!
One of the medical studies few years back showed women always remembered father for sense of security where as men remembered mother as sense of love! psychologists say that men and women always fall in love with one who resembles at least characteristics of Mother and Father respectively.
This was an interesting beer discussion! I found it very interesting and incidentally my fund is taking significant stake leading international Bar & restaurant chain! I have kept all names out of this discussion due to professional legal issues. I am sure you can understand but the point I am trying to make is below.
here is something for you to meditate…
All of us ask for love, and how can one who is himself asking for love, give love? How can beggars be emperors? How can people who are asking for love, be givers of love?All of us ask for love from each other. Our beings are beggars asking somebody to give us love. The wife asks for love from the husband; the husband asks for love from the wife. The mother asks from the son, the son asks from the mother. Friends ask friends for love. All of us ask for love from one another without realizing that the friend from whom we are asking for love, is himself asking for love from you. You are like two beggars standing in front of each other holding your begging bowls. As long as someone is asking for love, he cannot be capable of giving love because the asking for love is an indication that there is no source of love within him — otherwise why should he have to ask for love from the outside? Only a person who has risen above the need of asking for love, can give love. Love is a sharing, it is not begging. Love is an emperor, it is not a beggar. Love knows only giving, it does not know anything about asking.
Love
Suresh
What you think of me is none of my business!
What you think of me is none of my business!
“What you think of me is none of my business.” – Wayne Dyer
What would your life look like if you were literally unable to worry about other people’s opinions?
What a freedom that would be! You would live according to what you thought was beneficial for you and make decisions without second-guessing, over-analyzing, and shoulda-coulda-woulda-ing. You would no longer have any need for approval nor fear of disapproval.
The truth is, we don’t have any need for approval. Not truly. It is our egos that crave approval and fear disapproval. The mind loves to take things very personally and attempts to gain power through approval and disapproval games. When we separate ourselves from our ego, approval and disapproval have no value whatsoever. And nothing is taken personally.
In reality, another person’s thought or opinion about you is never personal, because it is never really about you in the first place. It’s about them. Our thoughts about anything and everything are only about ourselves. As Byron Katie points out, what I think and what I feel is my business. What you think and what you feel is your business. When I’m worried about how you feel about me, I’m in your business. And if I’m busy living in your business, how am I present for my own business?
When we let go of worrying over other people’s opinions, we are free to reflect on our own opinions of ourselves. Am I happy with myself? Did I make the right decision for me? Am I happy with how I treated you? Am I living in healthy and positive ways, for the highest good of everyone involved?
Living according to our own truth is one of the highest acts of self-love and self-care. And when you live according to your truth and stay in your own mental business, others will honor you and the truth you live, too, whether they agree with you or not.
Cheers
Suresh
Well-wishers makes you feel like jumping into well!
Man is not born insane but is driven towards insanity by the priests, by the politicians, by the parents, by your whole educational system, by your morality, by all that is enforced upon you, by all the conditionings. You are driven insane.
Man need not be insane, but it has not been possible yet to accept man in his naturalness. We create a structure around him, we prune him, we go on and on giving a certain form and pattern to him, we don’t allow him to be himself.
And we need to accept humanity with deep respect, love, trust, so that man can regain his sanity. And the problem is that man is driven insane by your so-called well-wishers.
The people who are trying to help you are the people who are poisoning you. Great mischief is being done by public servants, missionaries, by the so-called saints. They are the most mischievous people in the world — not intentionally, not consciously, but that’s the ultimate result of whatsoever they have been doing. they have been driven insane by other saints and they are driving you insane. And if you don’t follow them you feel guilty; if you follow them you become hypocrites. They don’t leave you any other alternative, only two alternatives: either be insane like them or feel guilty. And both the alternatives are ill, sickening.
That’s why path of awareness in biggest risk you can take because then you will have to follow your heart, you will have to follow path of your own song!
Meditation is nothing but the path of Courage. Meditation is a way of singing your own song. Meditation is art of inner growth.
Love
Suresh
Except you, Everybody else is taken!
Agency: TBWA, Paris
Creative Director: Erik Vervroegen
Copywriter: Veronique sels, Daniel Perez
Art Director: Ingrid Varetz, Javier Rodriguez
Photographer: Michael Lewis
Why Imitate? Why Copy? You are so special that there is nobody like you, you are unique and there is nobody out there like you.
Except you, everybody else is taken,
This universe is special because of you!
You have always been told and reminded again and again to become someone, you have been always taught that somebody else is great and you should become like him or her.
There is no need , with all flaws and flairs, You are the creation of this universe, That’s enough to make you special.
if only and if you can relax with your being, then you will see new doors openings for you, Struggle in life is always to become someone else. The moment you relax and accept yourself – you will see a great tension disappearing from you.
All schools and colleges teaches you at “pay attention” – “Attention” exactly means “at tension.” so in other words you learn soon to “pay at tension”
The moment you relax in your being then a great tension goes away. This tension is the biggest obstacle for your growth in life. if you remove this tension then sooner or later you will hear the tune of your life before the music plays!
The moment you relax and accept yourself, You start living in this moment and any one who lives moment to moment bound to receive universal grace, This whole earth showers you with goodies when you live in this moment and you will realise how special you are!
Remember -what others think of you is none of your business!
Today , just say – you are what you are and there is no need become someone special, because you are already special.
Mediation is art of knowing that everything in this universe is made of same stuff, Meditation is art of rediscovering you are special. You are already what you want to be!
PS: this photo is one of my all time favourites, It is important to teach children that they are special and teach them to accept themselves as they are,. only when they are comfortable with their nature then they can accept others. This whole world is a war zone because we cannot accept and respect each other for what we are.
Love
Suresh
