Friendship means you are no more important than the other!..
Photo copyright Suresh Gundappa 2006
Friendship is not something of the marketplace. Friendship is one of those rare things which belong to the temple and not to the shop. But you are not aware of that kind of friendship, you will have to learn it.Friendship is a great art. Love has a natural instinct behind it; friendship has no natural instinct behind it. Friendship is something conscious; love is unconscious.
A friendship is possible only between two empty boats. Then you are open to the other, inviting to the other, then you are constantly an invitation, come to me, enter me, be with me.How can you be friendly? With the ego there is no possibility of friendship. Then friendship is just a mask. The real nature of life is that of the jungle: the big fish goes on eating the small fish. Even if you pretend to be friendly, that is just show, strategy, diplomacy. Nobody can be a friend here unless the ego disappears. Once the ego disappears the whole life has a quality of friendship, of love. Then you are friendly, simply friendly — and to everybody, because there is no problem. You are not trying to be the first, so you are not more a competitor. this is real dropping out.
Friendship is the purest love.It is the highest form of love where nothing is asked for, no condition, where one simply enjoys giving. One gets much — but that is secondary, and that happens of its own accord.Friends never possess each other. The most fundamental thing in friendship is to give freedom to the other to be himself. There is a trust, there is no need to dominate the other; there is no need to chain him — through conditions — for tomorrow. Between two friends only one thing exists that bridges them, and that is trust; but it does not bind them.
Friendship has its own beauty, and if you can enjoy it, it is better than a love affair. A love affair is always jumpy. There are moments of happiness but they are few and far between. There are also many miserable moments. A friendship is a more solid thing; moves on. plainer ground. Friendship has a deeper equilibrium than love.
Friendship means that you have made somebody else more important than yourself; somebody else has become more precious than you yourself.
So tell me Who is your Best Friend? If you have time write a line about her/him.
Love and lots of it Dear ones
Suresh
Nice serene shot and a lovely thought to go along….By the way you share your first name with my best friend who happens to be my husband, Suresh (one reason I landed up clicking on your photoblog :))
Beautiful.
lovely photo
that would be a nice calender photo
Sorry I didn’t read the post.
BUT, are you sure that it’s not a painting and it’s an actual photograph ? Are you kidding ? You are awesome !!!
I cannot agree with you more..suresh!! and hey that’s a real nice photo. Love the sparkles on the water.
“So tell me Who is your Best Friend? If you have time write a line about her/him.”
Interesting article. I have been learning that I must be a friend to myself first. Then I will have so much to share with others. My best friend for quite sometime is my mother.
I have a new friend, who is inspiring among many things, and who is helping me heal. She,like my mother, is a truly amazing human being. A true friend is someone who will always love you no matter what.
They will be there for you, asking nothing. And they will always speak the truth. A true friend is someone I hold with reverence, and they feel the same about you.
As usual another stunning photograph!
Beautifully worded as always, Suresh.
I have found that true friendship is the rarest of gems so I feel fortunate in that my relationship with my brother is both unique and everlasting. We’ve weathered some pretty rough storms together and I honestly believe we would be close even if we weren’t related.
Your photographs get more lovely with each post. Thanks for sharing the beauty, my friend.
The one and only SUDI…..iam sorry… Sudarishi is his real name is my only BEST FRIEND. I feel uncomplete with out his presence around me. So i always have him in my thoughts. A few words for SUDARSHAN….
Sudi you have answered your life’s call. What am i supposed to do with out? My thoughts are dead.
Really great one…
I enjoyed your word but I believe a love affair that is strong comes from the deeppest friendship between a man and a women or any other kind of relationships.
I consider many as friends, and so at first I thought of a lot of people. And then when I reflected more upon the post and started applying it more honestly, I was apalled to see that my list unfortunately started reducing… I was surprised to see oh what a selfish man I am. But luckily still some are there…
One of my best friends were my late grandfather with whom I had a lot of discussions, and my late father with whom I had a lot of arguments but only in recent years I realised the truth of many (not all! so Dad… just in case you’re reading this from somewhere, don’t get too overconfident!) of the things he’d said!
And currently - its hard to say because my wife is staring at what I’m typing right now I’d better not spill the beans else there might be some war over here
Awesome!!!!!!
like all of u.
I have also many friend but my best friend pankaj.
he is very cute and simple person.
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