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People carry such wrong notions about Love. Every-time I talk to someone about love it seems like I am discussing a Business issue. Love has become a two way street. People have forgotten that love is a one way street. People are ready to give love only if they are loved.
The whole universe is linked by thread of love. The subtle relationship among all living and nonliving beings are linked thru love. That’s why Sufis refer God as “Beloved” to them Life is a love affair. If you can move higher in your Meditation then you are bound to get drunk in love.
Your failure in life to get love has nothing to with the other. If for a moment you can take a realistic look at your situation then you will find out that all your complaints about love has been due to your own doing.
I keep hearing friends telling me ” You know Suresh – She doesn’t love me anymore “. So I ask them back ” What about you – Do you love her? “. Immediate reply to me consists of terms and conditions of love. If she behaves like this, like that, then I am ready to love her.
It’s strange but true Love has been reduced to a thing. In love you are not unconditional. Your love is available to other person only if she/he is living up-to your expectations. That’s why you fail in love. You are not loving a stone, other one is also a human being. It’s like keeping the other in ZOO and telling her/him how she should behave so that you can love her!
Have you ever thought about it? For a moment think? – Can you accept the other with all postivies, negatives, drawbacks and love unconditionally?. I doubt so – the reason for it is very simple. You do not love yourself unconditionally!. You have not accepted yourself in total. When you struggle with your own existence other becomes difficult.
This is why you see so many failed marriages. When you are in love actually you are not concerned about the other. You are excited about what is happening to you when in love. You feel good about life,good about everything around you. In other words in both sex and love you are only concerned about what’s happening to yourself. Other has never been important to you.
You always confuse relationship with Relating. In relationship you are trying to create patterns which you are familiar with. For example in relationship you have fixed ideas about how the other should be. whereas In relating you constantly in learning and acceptance mode.
Unless love becomes unconditional there is no hope for marriage. Love towards existence, Self acceptance, present moment living are the key towards creation of unconditional love.
You cannot love -You have to be the Love it’s self. When your love is not directed to t external direction, Your celebration of love begins. your being needs to be filled with love. Then slowly you will see the whole existence start responding to your love unconditionally.
Don’t fall in love -Rise in love. Falling in love has become ugly. Rise higher and higher in love. The whole alchemy of Love is inside you not outside. Love yourself deeply and Unconditionally then you are capable of loving the other also.
Lot’s of love
Cheers
Suresh
righly said suresh (as ever!)
but i have started feeling that love somewhere has to do something with
addiction, i mean, we all get addicted to the person we say we love, and
there are times when you dont want to be around that person, you can,t get
away with him/her. Anyways, we have all been discussing this for centuries
now and i am sure we dont have to come at an inference sooner or later
love and cheers!
dk
and yea, i forgot to mention
astonishing photograph!
great in true sense!
Beautiful!
Yes, its so true.
But generally I have heard people saying, ‘Fallen in love’ .. never heard them saying, ‘Raising in it’…!
Nice;) Regrets.
CARo
Remarkable insight as ever.
What a insight
I guess slowly you are rewriting every rule book and every thinking. It is nice to know how someone can get out of mob and do outstanding job.
Hat’s off to my friend that you bring new insights every week. you seems to be ocean of creativity.
I am proud that i am one of your regular reader. If it helps I want to let you know that you have changed my life significantly.
I reached you through sulochanosho’s blog on UG / OSHO. Good that I did.
I appreciate the argument for Unconditional Love. But “to be love itself”, where are you driving yourself and others. Nut houses are no more asylums. they have only limited beds. This is damn bl**** abstract and impractical. To me, this sounds like the impression that the “half-baked Indian Gurus” give out in abundance to their gullible workshop participants who are in some ‘no-search’ kind of eternal, hypochondriacal search. I don’t know about the Western Gurus, have not seen or heard anyone, though there are some. Incidently I am from India too.
love the pics. like your blog. also a photography enthusiast here. will link you up if you don’t mind.
rising in love…..I like the sound of that
Don’t fall in love but raise in love !!!!!! amazing statement. I am in love is better than i have fallen in love. you have to raise and also see that your loved ones too dont fall but raise. loved one may be any one and any relationship to be in love is great and love the neighbour/stranger/enemytoo yes them you are above floating in an entire new world
thanks sureshji for wonderful rightup thoughroveken and a very beautiful photograph conveys a lot and lot
my first time to read your blog…and this is the first one that i also read…interesting insight…been doing some research and planning on write something about “the different facets of love”…i might borrow some of your words but will let you know if i do…will link your page to mine if you don’t mind?:)…i love photography as well, i love your pics (haven’t seen your album yet, but the ones that are on this page is enough to know you are a good one!:)…) have a blessed week!:)
sarita:)
Alchemy…what better word to express how one must change through life’s experiences. When the electric energy that arrives with the physical aspect of love…elevated hormones, etc. is left to the side and one uses the soul for loving experiences perhaps then people will love for the sake of love…instead of need/greed.
Unconditional LOVE!
That’s it. But I think the other way, the day “unconditional love” surfaces, the conditioned systems like “marriages”, ‘ll have to just collapse. Unfortunately, everything in this world is conditional and calculated. Only your ‘wonderful nature and blooming flowers’ pics are unconditional in nature; they just overflow with abandance and without any conditions. Let us jump into unconditional love!
Great Suresh. whatever you said is really awsm sir.
Nice article love it!:)
Aha you speak such truth my heart doth sing:)
isn’t it
you should have marked it somewhere
Amazing post…. I am still learning to rise in love. There is so much love and joy everywhere, all around us. But we fail to see and experience it. Love has become like a material thing in our lives. Just let love flow incessently and Im sure there will be no tears and unhappiness left.