Why do you say “Good morning” when you don’t mean so!
photo copyright Suresh Gundappa 2007
How many things we say mechanically and we don’t even mean it!, Watch people getting into office in morning hours. Everyone keeps saying it “Good morning”. Most of them just do it so mechanically that they don’t even notice the person they wished.
Similarly we do and say at least 50% of things mechanically. Scientists say man lives in a repetitive world. i.e 80% of your dreams, thoughts, talk is repetitive, Everyday you dream same thing, you get angry at same things, you say monotonous and repetitive sentences.
This is the reason ;husband and wife in marriage finds it difficult to believe each other after sometime. When they were in love then each word they said came out of deep resonance in heart. Every word they said carried energy which in turn touched others heart. Now after many years when there is no love in heart it is difficult to excite someone by saying “I love you”. they have experienced words which touched their hearts when they were in love. now after many years they want to hear same words and it is not possible.
watch your self, If you can avoid yourself from saying things which you don’t want to say then tremendous energy is available to you. Words are capable of carrying tremendous amount of energy. In-fact prayers, mantras, sermons, sufiana songs all carry science of throwing energy into words. Once you speak from heart and awareness then one sentence is enough to communicate and heal.
Meditation is art of creating sound of silence. Meditation is art of creating energy from silence. Reduce your unwanted communication everyday little bit. slowly you will realize you do not need much language to communicate and you will realize the power of words.
Love
Suresh
Because it is preferable to sniffing butts and wagging tails.
It is a ritualistic greeting meaning I see you and I’m not hostile.
suresh
simply superb what a way to express the needless things we do routinely.
what ever written is 100% true. we spend our energy on unwanted things so much
that we will not knwo what a waste on useless arguments but we can’t avoid it
on accounts instanteneous reactions, believing I am always right, ego, why I should
succumb etc., we will not understand the importance of silence when we do later on when your retrospect you will realise particularly after reading such a thought provking write up in this blog here.
rose in the photosay so many things
good post thanks
I’ve had a similar thought about saying “God Bless You” when people sneeze. It doesn’t take a lot of thought for that to seem more than a bit odd
Though, if I’m truly honest, MOST of what I say is “too much”
Yes Suresh, there are so many things which we do mechanically, not understanding the meaning behind it.
such a beautiful post…
We need to think about how we react and what we say!!!
thank you suresh!
i have just started reading your posts.. and just wanted to let you know how i appreciate them.
Such a meaningful post … Each of your post is so thought provoking.. A very good Blog indeed
I don’t know how you do it, but once again you have made my day
thank you
what a fantastic line of thought! preserving energy for something more beautiful.
but then i don’t think we should avoid daily greetings. That is just a way of acknowledging the other persons presence and not intending to be hostile.
I believe the “Good Morning” part is just an example; the idea is that most things we say are mechanical. E.g. “How was your weekend?”, “How’s it going?”, etc.
I rmr one of my ex-girlfriends used to ask me quite often, “Tell me that you love me”. I used to get quite tired of saying it when I didn’t feel like it, just to appease her. Now if a girl asked me a question like that, I would say, “Just wait. I’ll tell you when the moment is right, and it will be worth the wait”. I true “I love you” is priceless…
When i joined a big company after many years at a small one where everyone had known each other, I was surprised that in this bigger place hardly anyone spoke to each other even though they were in neighbouring cubicles. Except my colleague in teh same cubicle, he would greet me with a murmer of ‘good morning’ moving away from his computer screen for maybe 2 milliseconds after which he’d get glued back into it. Sometimes he’d even ask “how are you?” At first I started to actually answer and then I trailed off when I realised I was speaking to his back. I was really surprised “how come he asked how am i, dosen’t he want to know the answer??” And was tempted to answer “I got abducted by a flying saucer this morning but managed to escape and make it to office” just to test if he was really listening… but well… later on I got used to it. I was hoping that some day he’d unglue himself from his computer for a bit more… was hoping till I last saw him when we moved to diff divisions…
Similarly when we say Thank you. Usually its just a murmur. Its nice to actually surprise someone by looking him/her in the eye and say it really meaning it
“If you can avoid yourself from saying things which you don’t want to say then tremendous energy is available to you. “ - I could really do with remembering this! Also I wonder if it also applies even when we don’t need to say anything - eg with someone close where one smile is enough.
Sometimes people appreciate us meeting them with a smile and a gentle word even if we don’t feel like it. Its just common manners. Sometimes its better to hide something rather than show your true emotion. it paves the way for a smoother life.
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