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Truth hurts!
When you love someone then you need not pretend, In fact your pretension shows a blackspot on your Love. To be faithful in love means you need to be truthful . Once you build foundation on Love then even thunder storm will find it difficult to shake it.
Most of us feel obligated by not hurting Loved ones by telling them what you feel on their face!. It takes initial roadblocks to overcome this “truth on your face” attitude but over a period of time this will be the only thing holds together.
That’s why relationship never stay warm over a longtime. Because there is no trust in relationship. TRUST is a byproduct of TRUTH. If you constantly feel the lack of trust in your relationship, May be you need to start again and this time with the help of truth.
Telling truth may hurt your loved one but then that’s the reality. Don’t back away from telling truth to your friends , children, wife, Colleagues etc,. Youw ill be doing favour for yourself and other by your act.
Meditation is art of learning the path of truth. Meditation is therapy of removing your mask and showing your original face. Meditation is the only truth.
Love
Suresh
Interesting thoughts… the truth hurts sometimes, but the truth sets us free.
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SO true, But all of us it seems start pretending in ourlives, We are so afraid of loved ones leaving us that we end up in lies, Your photos are stunning but your words just pierce thru the heart. My daughter has been a great fan of you and she send me this link from Newyork, I love your amazing talent and work.
Very powerful message, Suresh!
I must admit I am doing exatly the way you write: I do tell my loved ones the truth, even if it hurts. and you know what? They are very greateful!! Afterwards:)
One more intresting aspect I would like to lighten up here: I experience that phenomenon of feeling myself one with the people I love the most. Feeling like one body, kind of. Feeling them being un unseparable part of me. And therefore I find it abosutely OK to tell them what I think/ feel – exactly because I would tell it to myself with the same honesty.Do you also expereince that in a similar way?
Thanks for this post. The photo is honest and raw. After seeing the photo and reading your words, I feel something “tugging” inside. I think intellectually I am honest. But when it’s really hard to be honest, it’s tougher. Thank you for reminding me to be true, regardless of how hard it can be.
Beautiful post….extremely thought provoking. Tough love is the biggest challenge of all in this marshy planet. Love reading your blog, thanks for sharing.
Di
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love is great but think first before entering the kingdom of love and remember that in every decision we’ve decide theres always a consequences followed…
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I have seen many do this very unjudiciously. Because when you have to tell loved ones something, it needs an extraordinary wise discernment, first one needs to know that they judge loved ones and what benefits them correctly and second, they need to know whether they really know how to tell them so that it benefits them. If this discernment is there, then only can somebody really claim to help a loved one by hur…thing them. Otherwise, it is simply somebody’s own perception of ‘their’ wisdom of what is not benefitting loved ones… and it generally starts to tend towards fault finding and remains as that! To me personally, its wise to first unconditionally accept loved ones as they are for quite a long time, before deciding to ‘hurt them’ for thier ‘benefit’. In fact unconditional acceptance of the ‘faults’ of loved ones is much higher challenge and its much easier to hurt them for their benefit. Meditation will let us know how the perception of their ‘faults’ impact our own weakness/egos and also whether they are really faults or not and to simply generate patience and loving kindness for them to see it for themselves… or for us to gently help them to see it for themselves if it is really a fault. Now that is much more tougher in my experience. Its not about telling them what pleases them, but simply being quiet with them and still love them.
Hi Shalini, looks like you said this a long time ago but I saw this today… I had some thoughts about it as well
> first one needs to know that they judge loved ones and what benefits them correctly and second, they need to know whether they really know how to tell them so that it benefits them.
I think this sounds like an intellectual process, but really it best happens when the wise discernment you\’re referring to, comes as an instinctive thing, that comes from a gut feeling rather than thinking about it. And usually even though that may hurt in the short term, it definitely will benefit in the long term. There\’s only a thin line between egoistically judging someone and saying something hurtful, to really saying something honestly as a gut feeling with the intention of benefiting the other person. Yes there\’s no silver bullet of course, as you say in some situations it may be best to accept them without any verbal communication at all as well, and at times even if they\’re harming themselves it may be better to let them fall and learn by their own experience though we may be around to support whenever they require.