What you think of me is none of my business!
“What you think of me is none of my business.” – Wayne Dyer
What would your life look like if you were literally unable to worry about other people’s opinions?
What a freedom that would be! You would live according to what you thought was beneficial for you and make decisions without second-guessing, over-analyzing, and shoulda-coulda-woulda-ing. You would no longer have any need for approval nor fear of disapproval.
The truth is, we don’t have any need for approval. Not truly. It is our egos that crave approval and fear disapproval. The mind loves to take things very personally and attempts to gain power through approval and disapproval games. When we separate ourselves from our ego, approval and disapproval have no value whatsoever. And nothing is taken personally.
In reality, another person’s thought or opinion about you is never personal, because it is never really about you in the first place. It’s about them. Our thoughts about anything and everything are only about ourselves. As Byron Katie points out, what I think and what I feel is my business. What you think and what you feel is your business. When I’m worried about how you feel about me, I’m in your business. And if I’m busy living in your business, how am I present for my own business?
When we let go of worrying over other people’s opinions, we are free to reflect on our own opinions of ourselves. Am I happy with myself? Did I make the right decision for me? Am I happy with how I treated you? Am I living in healthy and positive ways, for the highest good of everyone involved?
Living according to our own truth is one of the highest acts of self-love and self-care. And when you live according to your truth and stay in your own mental business, others will honor you and the truth you live, too, whether they agree with you or not.
Cheers
Suresh
Thanks very much for this. My life is about getting rid of depression and recognizing the inner guide is ok to follow. Meditation since 1965 is doing its work and the message you have here is so important to me now. I am being hit from all angles with this very message. Thanks for your support.
Ron
@Ron Whitaker, Wow your photos are simply breathtaking Ron (nothing depressing about them!
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No not depressed any more. The residue is inability to choice – know what I like artistically. I have been moving in many directions with the photography developing skills and contact with the inner artist. I need now to value my work, critique to my standard to enable growth and development.
Photography for me is a mediation – a growth. To get rid of the ego and get out of the way allowing the art to express openly.
Thanks
Ron
I love when Wayne Dyer says this for it is so true! When we let go of caring what other people thing then we are truly free.
Great post! This is very helpful. I’m sure I’d visit your site more often. Anyway, you can drop by my favorite online hang out too, at UK Student Community. Thanks!
Wow! What a novel idea for a blog. Thanks for the great photos. Meditation lets all the frogs know that all wells get water from the same source.
Dude, your photo’s simply rock!!!
I love them
What a quality wisdom! It’s so true that the first thought in mind will execute or decide in term of how other (the world) will feel. Rather as you posted here, it’s me who is going to face the consequence of the decision even made by me or the others. You have to be selfish I believe when it comes to your life and selfish means doesn’t hurting anybody’s feeling.
Cheers! You made my day.
Just wondering, are my comments any of your bussiness.
after reading this post, staying in my mental business has become one of my top things to do. thanks for sharing
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