A fable of Love and Life for New year by Suresh. Copyright Suresh 2012
It’s New Year as usual, Town is beautifully glowing with lights as I take a midnight stroll, and there is something about New Year! People just feel something new is going happen & things are going to be better, old resolutions just for few days find new life.
As I pass the main street, bunch of young drunkards are over excited to wish everyone, On this same street and on similar nights I have been called by my skin color and by four letter words. But not today! Today It seems like world is a nicer place.
At this time of the year!! I love to take midnight walks nearby river bridge. Every New Year, this river and bridge suddenly becomes a Runaway Bride@!…Overflowing!, Giggling with sound, Lit up with light!! And with the noisy songs of the city, it’s fantastic. I just stand by the bridge to savour the beauty of this town.
Tonight I see my friend Father John on the bridge, still in his pastor uniform under the leather jacket. He sees me and calls me out ” Hey ugly dear one!!, Come over I have two glasses and wine bottle, I have been waiting for a beautiful lady! But looks like my luck isn’t in my pocket! I have to settle for an ugly guy!” I smile as I know John for over 30 years! He loves to cut jokes at my expense! I tell him “John, You are ugly and no woman ever liked you! I heard this from reliable source!”
John looks at me and shouts loudly “my friend! You want wine or not! You can’t bloody insult me and expect me to pour wine, do you?” I tell him “Sorry”
He asks me “Who is your reliable source?” and I let a big grin on my face and tell John” it’s your Mom , John!” and John Laughs hysterically and says “if you want to know women, you have to stop talking to my Mom!”
We both laugh our bellies out! As we settle with our wine glass and find a nice little corner on bridge, John fills two glasses of wine!
Before I could pick up my glass and say cheers! John tells me “Slow my friend! Where is your prayer? In fact it’s OK to go to Church and not pray! But drinking Wine and you don’t pray? Oh! You are committing big sin , not the one easily forgiven!
I raise my eyebrows-in question mark and John tells me ” Wine, WINE, Wine, my dear friend, Wine comes from same root as divine‘ and he goes on without waiting for me to respond.
“Wine is the most beautiful discovery of man, he failed to find God in every moment so he discovered wine! In wine man discovers and uncovers the root he has forgotten, that is Happiness is his core being!! Wine gives him eyes from which world looks beautiful, Infact this universe is always beautiful but you don’t have eyes to see. Wine gives you eyes to see this world beautifully. Wine gives you a song to sing and wine gives you a dance to dance! And my friend that’s how you live in this world! With a dance and a song…”
“……Wine gives you heart to laugh and stay light, suddenly you have no other moment important more than now, because you can’t have any other moment when you are drunk. Drunkards move slowly not because they are drunk, because that’s how you should be in first place, Slow and full of awareness.”
“….My friend, Wine is a reminder to you that Life can be better, Wine is a taste of what divine tastes like!. Infact if you can be drunk with divine! Then you found your life!”
“…Wine is an every moment reminder that you need to find Divine! Be careful my friend! Please drink both wine and life carefully, take every sip of life with awareness and with prayerfulness. Do not insult wine by drinking wine with out smelling aroma. You can smell it if you know your breathing! Just be aware of breathing then you can smell the aroma of Divine and Life everywhere!”
“…..I am still holding my glass while John looks at his glass and tells me one final time before drinking “My friend on this New year, I wish you wine and Divine! May every moment of your life be as new as a sip of this wine! May you smell every moment with your breath, may you get drunkard with Divine rest of your life,, Hic hic hip hip hurray!”
I lift my glass too but slowly and say “Happy New year John! I wish you wine and Divine!”
_ End of the fable
Retirement makes people tired….really fast.
People really do not know what they want to do after retirement! Most of them have plans of travel and other exotic vacation. But after a year or two they start withering away. Spending time becomes single most painful event of life. It’s almost true that people age faster and get sicker after retirement faster than earlier.
Meditation is timeless state of being. Most of them probably never had a taste of Meditation. so they find it very difficult to be still.
Just not doing anything becomes the most difficult part of life. When you are not silent and still, then the next thing you do is to demand attention!. In other words you need someone to talk to, someone to love to and someone to spend time with. that’s why old people become so much demanding on Younger ones! Suddenly there is a need for attention. It’s not accidental that Most of the relationships with younger relatives goes for a toss after retirement. Most of them end up in retirement homes.
Retirement of the mind is meditation. If at all you need to retire anything during August time of your life, then retire your mind. Once you understand the nature of stillness then you can see that retirement is beautiful. Let me tell you another open secret! Younger ones are mostly tensed ones! the new generation carry tension of the world. Tension always flows towards relaxation. that’s why younger generation is so much attracted to adventure, Music, drugs,Gambling, porn…etc, that’s because you need a source for relaxation.
When you retire if you can relax more and retire your mind, then chances are you are attracting more people and more energy from your surroundings. Once you become easy on yourself …you become easy on others.
so when you retire please don’t get tired again!pls
so are you ready to retire your mind?
It’s wonderful is’t it ? the practice of leaving footwear outside prayer places is ancient and meaningful one! For years East practiced it with wisdom. For years wise ones felt that you carried your world in your legs! Contrary to West which starts with head, East felt that feet is the most important part. Old Mystics believed that we carried our world wherever we go. It just means that we carried our world of thoughts with us wherever we went. We collected garbage in our head. Mostly footwear were made of skin and most mystics believed that skin carried thoughts. it’s not accidental that monks in East prefer to wear Footwear made of wood. East believed that we collected thoughts as much in our feet as much as in our head!
Foot is one of the most important energy points in East, We always touched Gurus feet, Wise ones believed that palms and foot are two most important energy transfering points in Body, Blessing was and is always by hand and receiving blessing is always by touching someone’s feet. Entering world of Prayer and Divine thru feet is oldest device of Mystics. Infact ancient China believed that foot is the center of Body, In fact they gave to the world art and greatest science of foot Massage. They could heal anything by just working on feet!. Japanese tea ceremonies never allow footwear inside, In fact Most tea ceremonies are nothing but meditation ceremonies!
Coming back to leaving footwear outside Temples, temples and mosques, Gurudwara’s, in early days sacred places were always built with special stones and marbles. These stones and marbles are known to keep vibrations. As soon as your feet touches temple, Mosque or prayer hall, the first feeling inside you is of Prayer, if you sit and watch people entering these places invariable everyone closes their eyes at the first touch of feet to temple hall! isn’t it wonderful!
There is something funny and interesting I want to share here. Watch Young kids, they always want to lie down on temple floor. they try to sleep, hug and roll around the temple floor. Usually parents accompanying them never allow that but children feel tremendous urge to hug earth! unfortunately grown ups have barred them from doing so!. next time if you take a kid to temple and he likes to roll around a temple or church, please grow up! kid knows what he or she is doing and they are just hugging the divine calling!
Idea was to give you taste of silence as soon as step into prayer hall. Footwear signifies the world you carry in your head, footwear signifies your ambitions, your desires, your pain, your ecstasy and everything which is your mind. Whenever you get a chance to leave footwear outside a prayer hall, Please do leave your mind also outside. Approach with silence, May be you can get a glimpse of Divine!
Love & Please leave your mind and footwear outside when you read me!
All this time
Sun never says to the earth,
“you owe me”
with a Love like that,
It lights the
-poem by Hafiz
that’s all you need to find….unconditional love in your life ….then you see how your life is going to be full of light!
In the middle of the storm when everything around you moves up and down there is one center inside you which is still unmoving! The art of meditation is to find that still pond inside you when you are surrounded by a storm.
The way to to face life’s challenges is not to find solution outside but to allow solutions to emerge from deep inside.
Once you find your center and thoughtless awareness inside you, with that still center you will definitely know, how to dance in rain when you are faced with the storm!
Once you find your center you have also found the secret of navigating Life !
short story by Suresh …
John somehow managed to take this break after a long time. Being a workaholic, it was difficult for him to take a holiday break. Constant work pressure, goals, marriage took a toll on him. Finally he decided to take a break and headed to Himalayas for a quick mountain climbing trip.
He was greeted warmly by Sherpa coach “Songa”. Journey towards base camp was dampened by a flat tyre and John was unhappy with arrangements. It was cold and the facilities at the camp were really ordinary,Just basic. He felt like has been taken for a ride by his tour operator. He just wanted to get over with it. he was angry and irritated.
John was teamed with two other regular mountain hikers. His next two days became really bad with other two guys constantly boasting their experiences . this was john’s first trip in years and on top of that he was not a regular mountain climber.
By third day John was boiling like a volcano. Just irritated to death, he was finding his way too strenuous and hard. Entire team had reached mid point and It was a week trip so Songa, Sherpa guide was screaming at everyone to move forward little fast.
After a while Songa noticed that John had fallen behind. He stopped enough to catch up with John and asked him.
“John, dear friend, why are you carrying so much Baggage? you need to stay lite, if you need to reach the top!
John replied- ‘ what do you mean so much Baggage? I am carrying less than most others, why are you picking me up?
Songa :- John, I am not talking about your bag on the shoulders!
John:- Then what is it , Sherpa?
Songa:- John, I am talking about you! You are carrying your work , your money, your marriage, your past, your future, everything with you. If you are coming to mountain climbing then you need leave your mind back at home.
Secret of mountain climbing is that, it is one step at a time! you need leave your past and future behind so that you can take one step totally. Once you leave your mind behind it is easy to reach the top!. To reach top, you got be lite my friend in your heart! This is the secret of life and mountain climbing! Lose your baggage my friend so that you can have nice journey!
John was stuck by lightning, suddenly he could notice the majesty around him. Just at that moment air smelled better, sky looked bluer and earth looked greener.
John smiled and at that moment his work , his future and his family everything looked perfect. He just needed to change the way he moved forward in his life.John decided to lose his baggage and since then his life travel has become much more fun.
…..End of the story
Love ….my friends
Few weeks back I was at Vegas attending opening of a posh restaurant and I happen to be there as one of the high profile investors from Greater Omaha area Insisted that I attend glamorous Hollywood party. This investor also happens to be leading investor in my fund so.. I couldn’t say NO.
While at the party the star attraction was not definitely who’s who of Hollywood but interestingly hot looking, barely dressed waitresses who had everyone’s attention. People were taking turn to go ga-ga over waitresses. Ladies were checking out body-guards and the bouncers at the bar!. My investor who knows me well & about my interest in human psychology asked me “ why is this fascination with waitresses for our celebrities?” I asked him with tongue-in –cheek “is he asking this question for himself”; he smiled wide and I knew he was asking for himself! I really did not have ready made answer but my response was along the lines below.
Man’s first exposure to love is thru breast and milk! Child’s first feel of security is from mothers milk! that’s why ,most of them fondly recall mom cooked food as their best childhood memories. In a world of artificiality, Hollywood is starved of love. Every time a successful celebrity hits a bar, he falls for the service provided by waitress. Waitress by training are made to treat you special. they make you feel special! one good thing about alcohol is everything in this world looks beautiful after few pegs! Combine that with service for food, delicately exposed top! and alcohol– it’s heady atmosphere for falling in love! Interestingly one of the Hollywood statistician who was at our table noted that he can think of one waitress hook up for every three hook ups! he happens to be TMZ reporter! he said every waitress hook up he can think of does not lost more than 9 months! what can I say! 9 months ring a bell!
Similarly for every every girl father is her first hero! if you notice pattern more girls end up with an affair with their body guards, gym coach, or even sports heroes!
One of the medical studies few years back showed women always remembered father for sense of security where as men remembered mother as sense of love! psychologists say that men and women always fall in love with one who resembles at least characteristics of Mother and Father respectively.
This was an interesting beer discussion! I found it very interesting and incidentally my fund is taking significant stake leading international Bar & restaurant chain! I have kept all names out of this discussion due to professional legal issues. I am sure you can understand but the point I am trying to make is below.
here is something for you to meditate…
All of us ask for love, and how can one who is himself asking for love, give love? How can beggars be emperors? How can people who are asking for love, be givers of love?All of us ask for love from each other. Our beings are beggars asking somebody to give us love. The wife asks for love from the husband; the husband asks for love from the wife. The mother asks from the son, the son asks from the mother. Friends ask friends for love. All of us ask for love from one another without realizing that the friend from whom we are asking for love, is himself asking for love from you. You are like two beggars standing in front of each other holding your begging bowls. As long as someone is asking for love, he cannot be capable of giving love because the asking for love is an indication that there is no source of love within him — otherwise why should he have to ask for love from the outside? Only a person who has risen above the need of asking for love, can give love. Love is a sharing, it is not begging. Love is an emperor, it is not a beggar. Love knows only giving, it does not know anything about asking.
“What you think of me is none of my business.” – Wayne Dyer
What would your life look like if you were literally unable to worry about other people’s opinions?
What a freedom that would be! You would live according to what you thought was beneficial for you and make decisions without second-guessing, over-analyzing, and shoulda-coulda-woulda-ing. You would no longer have any need for approval nor fear of disapproval.
The truth is, we don’t have any need for approval. Not truly. It is our egos that crave approval and fear disapproval. The mind loves to take things very personally and attempts to gain power through approval and disapproval games. When we separate ourselves from our ego, approval and disapproval have no value whatsoever. And nothing is taken personally.
In reality, another person’s thought or opinion about you is never personal, because it is never really about you in the first place. It’s about them. Our thoughts about anything and everything are only about ourselves. As Byron Katie points out, what I think and what I feel is my business. What you think and what you feel is your business. When I’m worried about how you feel about me, I’m in your business. And if I’m busy living in your business, how am I present for my own business?
When we let go of worrying over other people’s opinions, we are free to reflect on our own opinions of ourselves. Am I happy with myself? Did I make the right decision for me? Am I happy with how I treated you? Am I living in healthy and positive ways, for the highest good of everyone involved?
Living according to our own truth is one of the highest acts of self-love and self-care. And when you live according to your truth and stay in your own mental business, others will honor you and the truth you live, too, whether they agree with you or not.